My Gift to You on My Birthday

Today is my birthday.  I’ve turned 49 at 5:37 this morning.  I didn’t wake up for it which I usually do.  It’s been one hell of a year with many highs and many lows…  I’ll just leave it at that for now.  Actually I won’t.  Menopause sucks.  Blending a family is hard if not impossible.  Losing a dog hurts eternally.  Loving another human is beautiful.  Feeling lost is a precious gift.

I’m including below the process I use in my consultations with others and the process I go through each year on my birthday.  The only thing clear to me at this point is my strategy for the studios and the fact I’d really like to go to the beach and hang out for a week.  Sometimes it’s good to not know…to be confused…to not understand where the divine is taking you.

Here you go…Happy Birthday.

Where to Change/Not Change

Self, the physical

1. As it relates to personal growth, what is working for you best?
2. What experiences do you want to have in this lifetime?
3. If you had one year to live, what would you do?
4. Do you feel like you are in alignment with your physical goals

• self-awareness (emotional intelligence)
• the physical body
• personality (ego-driven)
• appearance
• personal views on life
• self-identity
• self-image
• early environment, and beginnings
• how we initiate
• how we’re impulsive

Material Possessions, finances

2. What are your money values? Do you save or spend? Do you worry or not worry?
3. What is going on in your financial life?
4. Does anything related to material possession hold your attention, keep you up at night, or have you planning?
5. What would you like to change or stay the same in this area of your life?
6. Are you having “one-time” issues or is this something you struggle with a lot?

• money and possessions
• what you value
• your hidden talents
• sense of self-worth
• self-esteem (how you value yourself, instead of describing your personality as in the 1^st House).

Communication with others

3. Can you create a vision of what your relationship with your extended family would look like?
4. What is the perfect holiday?
5. How would you describe your communication skills with others? Is it working for you?

• neighbors & siblings
• short journeys,
• and all forms of transportation

4. Home  (no specific questions, just vision your home)

• everything associated with home
• (both the childhood home
• the current home)
• family
• land,
• personal foundations (inner emotional security)
• your roots
• person’s upbringing (usually mother)
• seat of your existence or consciousness
• karmic lessons…where you go when you die (re-incarnate)

Creativity, children, play, lovers

1.  What makes you feel fully alive when you are doing it?
2. What gives you lasting satisfaction?
3. What makes your heart sing?
4. What do you do that would be hardest to do without?

• children
• creativity
• pursuit of pleasure
• personal interests
• love affairs
• sports
• hobbies,
• speculation
• risk-taking
• Drama
• creative self-expression
• love given
• romance, dating, love affairs, and sexual relationships house

The day to day activities to take care of self and live, routine

6. What do you love most about your day to day schedule?
7. What do you find causes you the most stress and dissatisfaction?
8. Are you able to effectively prioritize your physical and mental health on a daily basis?
9. Are you having “one-time” issues or is this something you struggle with a lot?
10. What do you do that would be hardest to do without?
11. If you could categorize the suffering of others that most touches your heart, what would this suffering be?
12. Name 5 things you like to do every day and 5 things you do not like to do.

• daily work
• service
• Diet
• health and physical sickness
• physical ability to work
• volunteer labor
• civil service work
• caretaking
• mundane daily tasks.

Relationships with others

1. What is your experience of your marriage, relationship, or partnerships?
2. Are your relationships enhancing your life?
3. What are you missing in your relationships right now?
4. If you could make one change in your current relationships, what change would you make?
5. Are you having “one-time” issues or is this something you struggle with a lot?

• One-to-one relationships
• marriage
• business partnerships
• contracts
• cooperative relationships
• divorce,
• separation
• quarrels
• open enemies
• law suits

Sex, the occult, other people’s money, banks, taxes

1. What is the most important problem you want to solve?
2. What do you fear most?
3. Rate your sex life on a scale of 1 to 10.

• death
• regeneration
• taxes
• Inheritances
• wills & legacies
• sex (the actual act of sex)
• latent occult ability
• joint resources
• your partner’s money and possessions
• spouse’s money
• bankruptcy
• losses
• personal sacrifices
• alimony
• clairvoyance

Higher education, spiritual study

1. What are important dreams you would like to pursue in the next five or ten years?
2. What do you care most about?
3. If money were not a barrier, what would you do?

• philosophy
• religion
• law
• learning
• higher education
• long journeys
• travel,
• foreign countries and interests
• spiritual urges
• dreams
• visions
• higher mind
• ideas
• understanding and wisdom
• books,
• publishing,
• ceremonies, and rituals

Career

1. If you had unlimited resources and couldn’t fail, what would you do?
2. What is the most satisfying thing you have ever done?
3. Why was it so fulfilling?
4. What have you done you are most proud of?
5. If you could invest the rest of your life in one activity knowing it would change the world or the course of history, what would it be?
6. Rate your job on a scale of 1 – 10
7. Create a job description that matches you perfectly.

• status
• honor
• community power
• prestige
• reputation
• professional career
• financial success, but only as it relates to community power and prestige.
• It’s not about gaining “material stuff” as it is in the 2nd house.
• The 10th house wants success for the sake of honor and social status.
• recognition
• personal achievements
• social responsibilities
• sense of duty
• authority figures
• politicians

Groups and organizations

1. How satisfied are you with your social life?
2. Do you have friends and what are they like?
3. Are you involved in your community?
4. Are you helping and serving in a way that makes you feel good?
5. What groups or persons do you identify with most because of your own suffering and how do you desire to help them?

• community
• large groups
• friends
• memberships
• hopes
• goals
• ambitions
• wishes
• social groups
• associations
• humanitarian interests

The hidden, karma, subconscious

1. Describe your daily internal dialogue.
2. Describe your relationship with God.
3. Do you feel anything is missing? What is your ideal?
4. If you were God, how do you think you would want to relate to you?
5. Do you see patterns in your life repeating?
6. How do you feel about that?

• subconscious
• the hidden self
• unconscious mind
• subconscious memory
• subconscious habit patterns
• mental illness
• karmic debts
• self-deception
• escapism,
• spiritual realization
• limitations
• frustration
• our self-undoing.

Status Check?

How high is the stress in your life currently?

What there a time when you felt better? What has changed since then?

If you look to the future with this level of stress, what does it look like?

How do you physically feel?

Describe your day to day activities and the level of pleasure as it relates to them.

Is you life in balance or out of balance?

Can you prioritize the most important tasks in your day?

Is this how you would choose to spend your day given freedom of time, money, & responsibility?

How do you feel about your current boundary system?

Do you currently have coping mechanisms and boundaries that are working. For example, responding to emails just twice a day, turning off your computer and phone by a certain time, leaving work at a specified time.

If not, why not?

What would help you put boundaries in place?

What is your social life like?

What is the best thing about your family or marriage right now?

What is your current relationship with God/Spirit?

What accomplishments are you most proud of as it relates to self care?

Have you celebrated?